BEING IN TWENTIES – SOMETHING SPECIAL

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.

What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger.

You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.

Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. 

To Everyone who thinks that they face this similar state of confusion , You aren't alone in this state of confusion... We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." Everything will have an end.. Jus need to give it time and ask yourself what you really want and what is really worth it!!!

Adieu, TRICHY !!!

Had been in Trichy ever since I was two and am twenty two now when i about to leave . 
 We are moving to Sathyamangalam , a small town in Erode district (known well for the residence of 'Late' Sandalwood smuggler Veerappan) .


We are shifting as my father has got a transfer in a branch nearby Sathyamanagalam and my brother has been enrolled in a private engineering college in Coimbatore. 


             One couldn't have asked for a much bettter life in these twenty years. 


      Here I am blogging the ever remembered moments of my life at Trichy. This post is a token of love and gratitude to each and every individual who had been a part of my memorable trichy life.


Twelve years of schooling in Arockiamatha and two years in The Boys High school Srirangam, followed by four years at Mookambigai couldn't have asked for a much better ending; leaving with an Offer Letter from Infosys.


My cousins house in ponnagar had/is/will be alwayzz a HEAVEN for me. I love to spend all my weekends there.


My early Life at Trichy was near Karumandapam (on the Trichy - Dindugal road ). Spent nearly 14 years there (i.e) till I completed my 10th. 
I wasn't moving well with everyone due to shyness. But , I still had my joyful moments with friends.


- Unwanted arguements with Nithin and Raghunath that were endless. :P :P


- Cricket memories with Nithin, Raghu, Mukundan, Arun, Rama, Hari, Vivek, Pavan and Akshay :)


- Indoor games at Nithin nd Mukundan's house with Rama, Arun and Raghu. ;-)


- Cycle races with neighbours ;)


- Keyboard classes with Nithin and Pavan :)


- Getting teased by Kevin and Vivek  :(


- Exam time night studies with Nithin  :)


- Fights at Hindi classes and Ashokan tuition (Maths)


- Never ending Chats while returning from Mr. Britto's house :-)


- Two time Flood affected experiences :(


    Friends who made me school life memorable - Nithin, Mukundan, Raghu, Arun, Rama, Ashwitha, Nisha, Kirthika, Ilamathy, Manoj, Vivek, J.Karthi, Akshay, Christopher,  Saravana, Aruna, Keerthana,Magesh and Anjum. :) :) :)

   Having enrolled myself in The Boys Higher Secondary School, We shifted to Srirangam. 
It was here, where I started moving freely with everyone. I was feeling a little afraid about how I waz gonna make friendz here....... :( 


   But it all lasted only a few days. Prashant(Pichu) was the one who spoke with me first and he introduced me to his Chinmaya schoolmates. I too became a part of his schoolgang soon along with Sathya and Gowri.


My Naughty Gang -:


Sethuram - Romba romba Punctual  :P :P , jovial and brilliant .
                 I Learned many things from him. (Enga ellarukum GURU) ;)


Sadhur - Sema character , naughty and has a strong attitude. :D


Prashant - free-moving with everyone , Helps everyone :)


Jagan - sema jolly character , At times he used to forget what he is doing, A part of BIKER GANG, enjoyed many thrill rides with him . :P :P :'( :'(


Santhanam - A man of SoFT Heart and TERROR face . Has the Habit of keeping his looks seem angry (But only GOD knows the reason behind it) :P :P 


Sathya - fun-loving , never gets into any arguement, alwayzz a SPECTATOR, 
My BEST friend :) :D
   We all used to pile up in his house after bunking classes.


Gowri - Fun-loving , very helpful . popularly known as 'orphan of our cricket gang' ;) :P


Ram - cool headed, Have never seen him losing his temper . 'Tubelight' skin colour :P :P 


Narayanan - The MOST SILENT person , I have ever come across in my life. :)


Siddarth - Tallest in our group , fun-loving :P


Thiruvikarama (chitu) - only FEW can understand when he speaks fast. :P :P 


Ravi Kiran - Studious whose Teeth Typewrites :P :P


Soochu, Abhinav and Harish - My Sanskrit teachers  :P :P 


Vinoth - known as 'Alpha' , a cricketer ;)


Vivek Swaminathan - cricketr and jagan's BEST friend ;)

  My Higher Secondary education would not have been remarkable without CTC incidents.
Everyone of our gang did well in our boards and stepped into College life.. with everyone getting enrolled in different institutions. 


   I choose Mookambigai and I didnt have an idea of what was ahead of me. My college life was full of ups and downs. It had both extremes. My emotions were scattered happinness, anger, love , anxiety and stress.
     But all i had in my mind was 'Everything happens for good'. and thats the one that kept me moving on.


   I was gifted with two different personalities in my college life. 


Bhagawath - A man of words who never gets emotional, alwayz hides his feelings , Knows his strengths and limitations and makes every decision in his own way. :-)


Karthikeyan - Loves to lead a happy life without any stress, Doesnt like being controlled by anyone, A wild RIDER, Cares much for friends. :) 


   I learnt how to handle emotions only from my two best buddies - bhagwath and Karthi


We were a part of the group of ECE guys :-


Prasath - known as 'APPA' , our caretaker :) ;)


Ramkumar, Leo , Jaikar ,Deepak and Jubin were the rest of our group. I used to be the silent person of the group. 
  I haven't tasted bunking classes with them but have enjoyed the rest of the times I have been with them. 


Ever remembered moments of college life 


- Thrill Bike rides while returning home ;) :)


- Treats at 'Big Chick' ;)


- Piling up at Prasath's house after bunking classes for no reason. :P :P


- Being sent out of the class for no justified reason :P


- Never ending 'Manavalan' store Parottas


- Birthday celebrations


- Helps by Saran(karthick's friend) and Rama Subbu (schoolmate) during accident at my parents absence.


- Night studies at friends house where I almost spent all my time with mobile. 


    There are many friends who added value to my college life Riyas, Neels, Sashti, Vinoth, Rajesh, Rakesh, Deepak Mohan, Namachi, Vivek, Rakesh singh,Wilson, Saravanan, R.Divya, Divya, thaila, Surya, Sharadha, Punitha, Rathika, S.Nithya, Pavitra, Keerthana, Ramanathan, Fazloor and many more.


Some other college friends have also made footprints in my sweet memories :-


Karthik - My cousin , Has been part of all my success and was alwayzz there to lift me up when I was heart-struck, Never loses his temper and well matured.


Hari Krishnan - popularly known as 'HERO' , a strong personality, never changes his words for anyone, fun-loving and a perfect organiser.  ;)  Does anything for friends :) :)


Praveen - neighbour of Sethuram. His timing of comments usually makes a mark for him. Its fun to have a person like him around you alwayzz. 


Balaganesh - well known for his shocking reactions !!! :P :P


Sudharshan - known as 'El Yes' . I love his attitude , Innovative thinker. 


Bharath - studious, never gives up easily and a nice person to be with :)


  I had joined 'FIFTH WHEEL DRIVE' during my 6th semester. Mr.Venkatesh brought out the best in me. He made me realise What i was capable of ??!!
  
 I had few best buddies there Aravind, balaji, Prassanna kalai and Nivedha.


Mr.Venkatesh - he was more than a Guru fr me, we mostly spent time in mocking each other 


Aravind - known as 'paapa' , intelligent, fun-loving and takes emotions casually.


Balaji yadav - famous for his Thilu Mullu pic in FB, hard-working guy


Prasanna kalai - Girl of strong heart, jovial, loves to argue.


Hariram, Kamalesh, Subash - CSE dept. seniors who have been a part of all successful steps i have been through.


Deepa - My sister (Senior) , soft natured and my well wisher.

Divya - Junior, Affectinate and caring sister


 Enjoyed the two vacation trips we had been through 
- Veegaland
- GOA


Get-together in Malaikottai every year !!


Will be missing the hangouts out at sathya and jagan's house.


Weekend football with Sastra juniors (Badri nd Bala). 


  Having missed my schooldayzz much, I came in touch with many of my schoolmates Ilamathy, Karthick, Aloy ,Thas, Nizam, Praveen, Geetha , Banu, Sandhiya, Aiswarya, Joshua, Vimal and Vasanth.


  Friends who have also been a part of my cherishable life in Trichy --- Hari Krishna,Vivek, B.Abinaya , R.Abinaya , Balaganesh, S.Mathy* ,  Akshaya , Padmavathi, CIET frndzz - Karthick, Veena, Reshni and Karthik  and my ever lovable group of 'nila vandhachu' - Kavi, Olga, Ganesh, Niranjan, Abhi, Rose, Janu and Shanmugesh.


 Hope I have included every induvidual who had been a part of my lovely Life at Trichy. 


     I wish each and every induviual 'A Happy life ahead' .
Will be missin Trichy badly :( :(
                 Luv U all Frndzz. Do stay in contact.
                    Miss U all Buddies, Take care.


  Hoping to be back here on vacations. ;) 

'Back to Square One'

                 Having started the blog to make it a regular habit, I failed miserably in converting my thoughts into actions. And Here I am 'Back to square one'.  In this unexpected gap of my regular visits, I had a plenty of learning experiences from the ones around me. I would like to Let the Sleeping Dogs Lie and stop Beating around the Bush at this moment.

                  Whenever I have a learning experience , I always think of sharing my experiences in the blog. But my actions  weren't  moving with my thoughts. Some 'X' factor overpowered me and I failed to come out of it.  I had many days which would be remembered permanently till my end.
  
                  In this span of three months , I had my own Ups and Downs of life.  But it showed the true faces of people around me.  I had the opportunity of getting placed even before my studies ended . I was in a state of solitude at my tougher situations . Somehow I found a path of light that led me out of the distress I had .

                 I would like to Get into Brass Tacks and Start everything from the Scratch.

                
                 
                 

Being Successful over Failing

                              It would probably be better to discontinue using the word 'FAILURE' in our everyday life and we should tell ourselves that it is only the expectations that aren't met. We need to continuously cultivate an appropriate response to failure.
                              Failures looks menacing when looked at from close ranges.It looms large and threatning when there is no mental distance between it and us. The farther the distance we are from it, the smaller it looks. We have much to learn from our failed ventures than from our successful.
                             Life is all not about success and failure. One cannot measure the value of life by adding all the successes and subtracting the failures. In order to handle failure, we need to develop a proper relationship to success. It is like a see-saw. If one goes up the other goes down. Since failure is one of the most painful experiences it evokes empathy. Empathy bonds people together. Failure then is not totally negative and without use. To maintain a balance would require viewing success and failure from a larger perspective.

                           All said and done, It is equally important to have a feeling of having accomplished something in life about which we can be proud of. We humans are designed for living a meaningful life and free to create the meanings we want. The driving force of our life should be to create a meaning to our existence. The greater the meaning in our lives, less can the feelings of failure torment us.

 "Nothing fails like success because we don't learn from it.  We learn only from failure."

LIFE Circle - A TOON description

Itz one of the good toon works that describes the cycle of life .... lolzzz

'A Zeroth review to my Zero rated Brain'

        It was the week, that just kept me as busy as a beaver. I was forced to engage myself in one work or the other. Being at the verge of the working days, I had to work on my records whose deadline was nearing...!!! In the midst of the overloaded works, there was a note of fore-warning to all stating that 'All students should be prepared for the Zeroth review with their project titles.'  It was scheduled at the weeks end.

        Hearing those, I had a modest laugh.... thinking of What am I going to do?? It seemed to be a mammoth task ahead. I always had a feeling that I was a bit lagging on my technical part. I was cold feet-ed as It would throw open my weakness. It indeed looked like a "Zeroth review to my Zero rated Brain." 

              My initial thoughts were about why was it named the Zeroth review??

                          The initial flash across my mind was 'The Zeroth Law of thermodynamics'. It states that "If A and C are each in thermal equilibrium with B, then A is also in thermal equilibrium with C." It indeed has a hitch in the practical life we lead. 

                To be a little practical , commonly known as the Newton's Zeroth Law  'At any instant of time, An object responds only to the forces it feels at that instant.' The perfect example would be the concentration of a student. Zero, also marks the base or foundation of the things that follow. And It was surely named zeroth to ensure that everyone has a good foundation or basic knowledge in the areas that they wish to march ahead.

              Project - An accomplishment of a work by a team or group. Mine is a group of three. The other two members of my group are Bhagawath and Karthi. I have always had a good work chemistry with Bhagawath and Bhagawath had the same with Karthi. We began our works with no more further arguments and ultimately there was a situation where I found that I was having a good work chemistry with Karthi. This is indeed a replica of the Zeroth law of thermodynamics. 

               We prepared well inspite of the heavy workload that we had and it did pay off. Our project was accepted and we are on course to implement it. Even though we weren't at our best in this zeroth review, I am sure that we will show a better and improved performance in the reviews that follow. 

"Its the First Step that Counts"

I always had a desire to manage my blog regularly. But I was in a mixed states of mind.
       There was a hell of confusions in my mind like

• How to start? 
• When to start? 
• Should my first Blog be Informative?
• Should it be narrative? 
• ............. and many such unnecessary thoughts. 

                   I always knew that , One day or the other ... I would get through all these constraints and get started, eventhough I knew that it would be late. Some sayings like "Its Better Late, than Never" is often repeated in our day-to-day life. This is used regularly by all , to initiate us .. In getting started with our work.

                  
                  And this being my first post... I thought of stressing the importance of getting started with the work that one  aims to achieve. Constraints are only visible until we start our work. One should put valiant efforts to get their work perfectly done. 

                  As the pace of life in today's world goes ever faster, we seem forever on the go. With so much to do and only with a little time to do it!! How are we gonna cope?? As far as I am concerned, having a careful plan is the basic and the perfect method. To begin with a plan , gives a clear focus of the goal one is upto. As the saying goes :  

                                    "Well begun is Half done."  

                        If U knw that U are ambitious , U would motivate yourself to learn more. Making a perfect plan would cultivate ones responsibility and make oneself disciplined. Making a plan before starting a work would decrease the work time during its course of action. As some people say "Its the first step that counts" The first step is the most difficult which will have an massive impact on the result. The saying "All that is well ends well" also stresses the key to success is to get a good beginning. I hope that I have made a first step that will count good at my result, I aimed to achieve.


                    
                        My best wishes to all , who are on the course of their work and I hope U all taste the sweetness of Success.